Coping With the Empty Nest: Advice for Parents

Your kids are grown. The house is quieter. You finally have time for yourself… but instead of feeling free, you feel a little lost.

Empty nest isn’t just about kids moving out — it’s about your whole identity shifting overnight. One minute you’re running carpools and packing lunches, the next you’re standing in the kitchen wondering who you are without the constant parent hustle.

It’s normal to feel proud and heartbroken, excited and lonely. This chapter changes your emotional rhythm, your relationships, and the way you see yourself.

Why the Empty Nest Hits Harder Than Expected

Here’s the thing — you didn’t just lose kids in the house. You lost the daily routines, the roles, and the built-in sense of purpose you’ve had for years. That can stir up:

• Loss of routine – No more built-in schedule keeping you busy.

• Identity confusion – Who am I without being in parent mode all the time?

• Relationship strain – You and your partner (or friends) may feel out of sync.

• Loneliness – Even with a full calendar, something still feels… empty.

These feelings are valid. They don’t mean you’re failing — they mean you’re human, and you’re adjusting to a major life transition.

Opportunities for Rediscovery and Healing

This season doesn’t have to be all grief and nostalgia. It can be a chance to:

• Reconnect with your passions and hobbies

• Strengthen friendships or make new ones

• Explore travel or creative projects you’ve put off

• Focus on your mental and physical well-being

Therapy can give you space to process the hard feelings and start imagining what this next chapter could look like — one that’s not just about filling time, but about filling you back up.

How Therapy Can Help You Reset

In therapy, we don’t just talk about “moving on.” We slow down, get curious, and help you:

• Work through grief and identity changes

• Explore your personal values and new goals

• Improve communication with your partner or loved ones

• Build daily rhythms that nourish you

• Find purpose without burning yourself out trying to “stay busy”

It’s not about “getting over it” — it’s about rewriting the story so you feel grounded, confident, and excited for what’s next.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

If the empty nest feels heavier than you expected, it doesn’t mean you’re broken — it means you’re in a big life transition. You’ve spent years showing up for your kids. Now it’s your turn to show up for you.

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About the author

Karla Storey is a licensed trauma therapist based in Gilbert, Arizona and the founder of Anthology Collective. She specializes in helping high-achieving women heal from emotional neglect, perfectionism, and hyper-independence using EMDR, somatic therapy, and parts work. Karla offers both weekly sessions and EMDR intensives for clients who are ready to stop performing and start feeling. Her approach is warm, real, and rooted in lived experience – because she’s done the healing work too.